My first birth rocketed me from the wonder and discovery of revelling in my pregnant body, to crying every day for months and feeling like I’d somehow failed. Somewhere between being admitted to hospital and discharged, I’d lost a part of me that I could never get back.
My second birth was different. It was a moment that, to this day, fills me with feelings of triumph, ecstasy, love and connection to a power I can only describe as bliss.
It was not by chance that my second birth was so empowering. Throughout my pregnancy I consciously prepared myself in a way I hadn’t for my first.
What I learned along the way continues to influence all that I do.
I discovered the huge gap between the cultural belief about birth as something to fear and mistrust VERSUS evidence of the love and ease with which women’s bodies are designed to birth.
I discovered it is fear, and only fear, that is at the root of all pain and tension and problems in birth, whereas Nature has designed for babies to be born in a loving, gentle and easy way.
My birth preparation changed my beliefs about birth.
I learnt that birth does not have to be painful or an ordeal or a medical event. I learnt that birth is a very natural event that may be intense but also calm and intimate, loving and triumphant. Ecstatic.
Key to this is providing support to women that builds confidence and trust their body.
My studies in Traditional Chinese Medicine and Eastern Wisdom coincided with my personal journey into pregnancy, birth and Western Wise Women traditions. Traditional Chinese Medicine taught me a 5000 year old theory of a health care based on working with natural processes. At the same time my double degree meant I studied Western Health Sciences and the medical model of health care that had influenced most of my cultural beliefs about health.
Until I studied Chinese Medicine, I’d never questioned there may be another way to look at health. In the same way, until I met an Independent Midwife I’d never questioned other models of antenatal care aside from hospital and the medical model.
Opening my mind and my heart to new ways of being have led me to greater health and wellbeing, and to experiencing birth as one of the most joyous and ecstatic moments of my life.
What I love best is being able to use what I have learnt along the way to help you, too.